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Ruthless Love: God’s Plan

Ruthless Love: God’s Plan

I’ve talked about living in the South as an Asian guy, but I don’t think I’ve ever focused solely on the “Bible Belt” aspect– especially when it comes to dating.

Religion embeds itself in the speech down in Arkansas. You get a whole variety of different reactionary phrases:

  • Good heavens!
  • Bless her heart.
  • I’ll be praying for you. (“Thoughts and prayers” probably being the most infamous variation of the bunch)

And for each one of those phrases, I feel like “I get it”. But there’s one context where I think adding God into the mix is just pouring salt on a wound: rejection.

“The Lord works in mysterious ways” is basically “everything happens for a reason”. But for the faithful, you have to believe “It’s all according to God’s plan”.

Maybe it is.

And if some things are part of his plan, sometimes there’s things that aren’t.

Maybe that’s true.

But you better believe, “You’re not part of God’s plan for me” is never going to be the right sort of phrase to pass on to someone.


Rap Re-Write: “Ruthless Love”

Rap Re-Write: “Ruthless Love”

Listening to music can be a great way to improve your English fluency, just as long as you take the time to 1) sing along 2) reflect over what’s being said.

One of the best genres of music to dive into is rap. When it’s bad, it’s really bad. It can be formulaic, talking about money, girls, and money and girls.

But when it’s good, it’s really, really good. Rappers can be some of the best wordsmiths out there. More prolific than any poetic. Quick witted with a variety of ways to deliver the same message. These are the perfect kind of speaking models for English learners.

And yes, I understand it can be tricky. Sometimes even native speakers aren’t even sure what rappers are talking about. That problem can cause a lot of debate over misheard lyrics. There’s even websites dedicated to interpreting the meaning to songs.

To help ease into things, I made a new rap. Let’s check out the lyrical choices and the meaning.

The Intro

Uhhh, I want to talk about a love so ruthless, I call it ‘ruthless love’. Cuz it doesn’t matter what it chooses, makes you feelin’ stupid.

To me, the intro is the hardest part of rapping because they hardly ever make any sense. I did my best to replicate that here. I give a brief preview of the song with some unnecessary repetition.

“It doesn’t matter what it chooses” refers to the fact that no matter the outcome, love can make you feel dumb.

The Verse

Love is ruthless
Love’s an irritant
Love’s a black hole
All the time spent

Love can be cold and heartless. It’s also annoying. And just like a blackhole that sucks things in, love’s like that too! And in that chaos, you lose track of time.

All the money spent
All that money lost
Love is heavy, man
Rick Ross

Love can be expensive (think of all those dates). And when things don’t work out, instead of feeling worthwhile, you’ll feel like it was all a waste. Love can be overly serious. Double meaning on heavy here.

Love’s a bad boss
Long nights and long days
Got you Screwed over
Workin overtime but underpaid

Love can push you around (like a bad boss; being bossy). Like a bad job that asks you to work long unnecessary hours, a bad relationship can ask the same kind of effort from you.

Minimum wage, Minimum wage
Can I get a raise?
Keep askin for a raise
But I can’t get a raise

People often complain about not being paid enough for their work. In a bad relationship, you might feel like you’re not getting fair treatment. Even if you try to negotiate something better, you just get denied.

Rays of sunshine
Love’s kinda cloudy
My love was only with you
But your love was without me

Word choice of rays because it rhymes with raise. Often, when people think of love, they think of sunshine. But the truth is, love doesn’t always shine so bright (i.e. cloudy). And here’s the real kicker: it turns out the love mentioned in this song was one-sided.

The Chorus

Love is ruthless
What it chooses
Dumb choices
Feelin’ stupid

The capstone of the recurring theme of the song: love can be rough, illogical, and painful.

Get it?!

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